It’s easy to start the new year full of enthusiasm for change. But by this time of year, many resolutions have fizzled.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Dr Marny Lishman, a health and community psychologist, shares strategies to help you reset and achieve your goals.

“Eighty per cent of New Year’s resolutions fizzle out by February,” Dr Lishman explains. “A lot of us burst into the new year with big plans, but life gets in the way.”

For many, unexpected challenges like illness, work stress, or shifting priorities can derail progress. The key is not to abandon goals but to reset and approach them differently.

Step 1: Prioritise Your Goals

Start by listing all your resolutions. “Look at your goals and rank them from easiest to hardest,” Dr Lishman suggests. “Or, choose the one that excites you most.”

Beginning with an easy or exciting goal helps build confidence: “Achieving small wins creates momentum to tackle harder goals later.”

Step 2: Focus on One Goal at a Time

Trying to change too much at once is overwhelming.

“Pick just one goal to focus on,” Dr Lishman advises. “If you spread yourself too thin, your goals will compete for attention, draining your energy.”

Step 3: Break Goals into Actionable Steps

Broad goals like “get healthier” can feel vague.

“Break them down into specific behaviours,” Dr Lishman says. “Are you going to walk around the block? Go to the gym? Eat more vegetables?”

The more detailed, the better: “Decide when, where, and how long you’ll do each action. Put it in your calendar. Set reminders. Treat it like an appointment.”

Step 4: Use Planning and Accountability

Planning ahead prevents obstacles from derailing progress.

“Mapping out your year helps anticipate roadblocks,” Dr Lishman said. “You don’t need every detail, but having a general idea of what’s coming keeps you on track.”

Accountability also makes a difference: “Apps like Couch to 5K help break down goals and provide reminders,” she says. “Some people do better with a workout buddy or a group. If that helps you stay consistent, go for it.”

Step 5: Build Sustainable Habits

External motivation like apps or friends can fade.

“Ultimately, you need to become your own accountability partner,” Dr Lishman said. “The goal is to create habits that stick, even when your support system isn’t there.”

If you struggle with motivation, consider joining a local group: “Find a walking group or fitness class in your area. It provides structure until you can maintain the habit on your own.”

Step 6: Reframe Your Mindset

Mindset plays a huge role in long-term success.

“Instead of saying, ‘I have to do this,’ try saying, ‘I get to do this,’” Dr Lishman says. “Shifting from obligation to opportunity changes your motivation.”

By focusing on small, consistent steps, you can restart and actually achieve your New Year’s resolutions. The key is not perfection but persistence.

As Dr Lishman puts it, “Start small, stay consistent, and let your progress build over time.”

Article supplied with thanks to Sonshine.

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What Do You Plan to Do With Your One Wild and Precious Life?

In my teens and right up to my early-20s, I dreamt of being a real “risk taker”, and I had quotes like Robert Frost’s “I took the one less travelled/and that has made all the difference”, and Mary Oliver’s “What do you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” plastered all over my inspiration board.

It was so easy to dream in a safe environment, where I didn’t have any real responsibilities apart from not getting a C in my accounting (but I always succeeded in getting a C anyway), and showing up for my part-time work on time (and mustering the courage to ask the very grumpy payroll clerk why I wasn’t paid for x hours). 

So I dreamt of going away to big adventures abroad. Maybe I could be a foreign news correspondent, writing stories on the weak and oppressed. Or maybe (when I wasn’t failing accounting) I could be some hot-shot business-type person. 

But soon, years after graduation and having worked several jobs, I found myself less keen on going down the “road less travelled”, and opted for a safe and comfortable existence. And the only “wild” thing I did in my life was to relocate from New Zealand to Australia for a job opportunity. 

But one day, God hit me with a real “road less travelled”, challenging me with what I would do with my “one wild and precious life”. 

The organisation that saw me move to Australia in the first place went through a restructure, which affected my role. They offered me another one. Around the same time, a job opportunity had come up with another organisation, but it required a huge leap of faith because I had to fundraise my own support (very wild!). 

Two opportunities presented themselves. No one would fault me if I went with the first option, because all I had to do was sign the papers, and move on. The second option, however, came with a lot of uncertainties as Australia was in an economic recession then. Fundraising in a recession sounded so foolish. 

So I … went with the second option. And God travelled with me down the “road less taken”, which I am not going to lie, was filled with kinds of obstacles and thorns, and wild animals. Yet we travelled together, and when we emerged at the end of the other side, I can gladly say going down the “road less travelled” with God made all the difference. 

Below are two things I learnt with God as my walking guide. 

God Provides

The news was awash with stories of rising grocery prices, inflation, and mortgage rate hikes, when I started fundraising. 

I wasn’t sure who would want to finance a ministry worker in the face of such ghastly news. In fact, it seemed almost absurd that I was trying to fundraise in such a lean time. 

Perhaps I should have just signed with my previous organisation, and not have to worry about finances. 

I wrestled with it every day, and my prayer group prayed with me and over me in our weekly Monday meetings. I wasn’t sure if I’d ever be able to reach the mountain. 

And yet, over the months that followed, God provided through the generosity of His people. People who saw the vision and mission of this ministry, and wanted to invest in it so the gospel can go out.

It felt very surreal when the finances started coming in. It’s really hard to put it in words, so I’ll instead give you a soundbyte that was going through my mind.

“Whaaaatt…”

“This is craaazyyy”

“Noooo waayyy” 

Pretty much noises of disbelief. Like, God, I know You provide, but woowww, look at this! 

(I still get goosebumps re-telling this story.)

God Sustains 

I would be lying if I said finances came pouring in and my life was so amazing the moment I put my trust in God to provide, and the moment I did His will.

It was actually the reverse. My faith had never been more tested until I stepped into this role. I first came down with bronchitis and in the span of a month, a cold. People whom I had made appointments with to seek their support were suddenly made redundant, got sick, or completely forgot to show up. The X-Files theme song would make for the best OST in the back of all these happenings. 

Yet, God sustained me. He sustained me through the kindness of friends who prayed with me, heard my concerns, and bought meals for me. Another friend suggested I listen to a Tim Keller podcast titled, The Shield of Faith. 

“The enemy attacks at the front line,” Keller said. “People on the front line are much more likely to go down with a bullet than people who are cowering about five miles behind, like a lot of us do.” (It also felt God was bellowing into my heart.) 

Keller said the front line is the place of mission, where we open our mouths and go out on a limb to make the difference in a neighbourhood or city.

And when we do that, there’ll be all sorts of flying missiles. And this is why it’s so important for us to put on this “armour”, which is the shield of faith.

And that’s when fiery arrows and molten lava start pouring down, and this is when we have to lift our shields–big giant things, like a huge door–to defend ourselves. 

For me, lifting my “shield” meant praying, worshipping, and declaring God’s goodness in my life even on discouraging and disheartening days. I would pray, “The Lord is my refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1-2 ESV), “I lift up my eyes to the hills, from where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth” (Psalm 121:1-2).

And when my arms were tired of all the hefty lifting, I simply sought shelter under His wings (Psalm 91:4). Here I am God, just taking a cosy nap under Your wing. 

Venturing down the road less travelled isn’t always as glamorous as it’s made out to be. Sure, it made me feel bold and daring, going where no man would potentially go (especially in the middle of a recession), but it came with setbacks, bruised knees, and skinned thighs. 

Thankfully, my travel companion is also our Great Shepherd! And in His kindness and mercy, led me to green pastures and still waters (Psalm 23). While it may sound like He took me away on a big getaway, the real rest came to me when I surrendered (even though biting and kicking) it all to God because this is His work, and I am just His hands and feet. I had to rest in His provision and care. 

And He never fails. 

At the end of my first year, through God’s grace and the generosity of His people, I managed to meet my fundraising target. I was gobsmacked. 

And that role, which in human wisdom, would make more sense to sign on? It was rolled up after yet another restructure. (What a plot twist.)

Perhaps today you’re at a crossroads about a decision. You’ve been thinking of switching careers, taking unpaid leave to pursue further studies, or maybe feeling like God’s asking you to head down a really unexpected path. And your heart’s a little shaky about what the future holds. Can I assure you (after you have prayed and seek wise counsel) that you can trust God with the outcome because He is the most trustworthy walking guide you can ever have in your life.

Article supplied with thanks to City Bible Forum.

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Have you ever had dreams and plans for life, started down the path to achieving them, and after a while you looked around and wondered, “How did I get here”?

Where you are standing doesn’t seem to relate to the dreams and plans you started out trying to achieve. Sometimes, that can be exciting; we can be further along than expected. Other times, it can be incredibly frustrating, with a side order of unmet expectations and unfulfilled dreams.

Detours Lead to Questions

I got married for the first time at 19. My dreams for that marriage were pretty standard; I think: grow old together, have lots of children, buy a house, sell it after a few years, travel some and then have some Grand kids running around. Things did not go the way I expected. I have a beautiful daughter from that marriage, but when it ended, I was left with a lot of questions. There were so many questions about myself, God, and my future as a single mum. I wondered how on earth this had happened. My reality was so far from my plan.

I have been married to my second husband for close to sixteen years now. Again, I had many dreams and plans for this marriage, and they also involved many children, houses, and travel. My husband has a son, we blended our family, but we weren’t able to have any more children. We don’t own a house any more, and we haven’t done a lot of travel. The dream to have more children in particular was an incredibly hard one to let go of, I grieved it for a long time. Once again, my master plan looked nothing like the reality I was standing in.

Life is Not Linear

I like to come into situations with my steps from A to B pretty much mapped out. I have learned that life is not linear. We don’t go from A to B in a nice straight line. We take steps ahead; we go back a few steps. There might need to be a side step and then another step up. Somewhere there could be a stop on a platform for a while. Sometimes we go around in a circle and end up where we started. We need to continually check though, that we are still taking steps. It’s easy to become frozen when life is not the way you dreamed.

Unfulfilled Dreams Can Be Pivotal Moments

If life were linear, I wonder if we would have the character development we need to live in community with other people. The situations that we encounter along the way that seem at the time to be the most painful detours can be the situations that produce the most growth in us. Those side steps that seem like heartbreak and unfulfilled dreams can be the steps that lead to pivotal moments in our futures.

There is a passage in the bible in John 15 :4-5, where it talks about how we are like the branches of a grapevine and Jesus is like the vine. It says that we are to remain in him. Without the vine (Jesus) we can’t produce fruit. Life is not linear, but if we are not managing all the challenges in partnership with Jesus, they become so much harder. We can continue to walk through the difficult situations that we face because we know that we don’t do it alone. He will produce good things out of the painful detours in our lives when we walk it with him.

Article supplied with thanks to Lorrene McClymont.

About the Author: Lorrene McClymont is a writer and photographer from Hope Images. On her blog ‘Moments to Rest’, she shares about rest, faith, and family.

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